How To Handle Loss Of Self-Confidence


There is a time in a person’s life that he or she will experience a loss of confidence or have self-doubt. You may be successful before, but after many years, you may have suffered job loss, bankruptcy, lost savings, or safety and security issues at home or work. You may have experienced that feeling wherein you became less confident in yourself and in your ability to survive this world. If you are always like that, you and your family will suffer.

In Dr. Nikki Martinez, Psy.D. blog, she says, “If you are struggling with low self-esteem, it is encouraged that you seek some type of help and support to work through this issue, and to help you be the best version of yourself that you can be.” In this article, different ideas of regaining your self-confidence will be suggested. In general, these suggestions are merely ideas, and it requires you to take action since you are responsible for your state of mind.

How Bad Is It?

Here are some simple, but real and true to life scenarios. There are small businesses that have closed recently. Aside from the workers, even these business owners will have to look for jobs because of their business loss. The worst thing is that most of these business owners only have a few things to write in their resume.

There are also people who experienced downsizing issues or acquired, merged or off-shored to other companies which are unfamiliar to them. Some individuals, who previously made $175,000 per year with their supposedly stable job, are now unemployed and their previous posts were taken over by someone who makes $40,000 or less. There are those who have been unemployed for more than 18 months, and 20 million job posts have permanently ceased in the United States because of low demand, or issues with innovation in technology.

Despite these situations, there are still some job openings, and people are being hired, but it doesn’t look good. These people are discouraged or have lost confidence. Only a few never gave up and tried to be more persistent.



Losing Self-Confidence Is Normal And Happens To Everyone

“People with a healthy self-esteem tend to view failure as an event. People with low self-esteem often view failure as fatal. This thought process pummels one’s self-esteem and overtime being a failure becomes their identity.” -counselor Monte Drenner

People have their own stories, and everyone is bound to get discouraged or will lose their sense of confidence at one point. There was once a CEO of a successful company who gave talks to their engineers and other staff members. He said that at one point, he felt discouraged especially during the start-up phase of his company. The CEO admitted that he almost lost all hope for his company to prosper. The only thing he believed in was about faith in his work. He shared this story right after winning an award as being one of the fastest growing businesses in the United States.

Another CEO of a small startup company shared his experience which was quite similar. He was informed that being a CEO, especially if the company is a start-up, can be very difficult. He was warned that he might not be able to make it and at first, they were right. He had self-doubts and was discouraged, but from that, he learned. He shared different tips on uplifting one’s self-confidence when it is running low:


Mean Time Between Good News

This is opposite of the term “Mean Time Between Failure” (MTBF) which is usually found in hard disks and memory chips. It predicts time even before the product fails. MTBGN is the time or number of week or months of bad news.

Tip 1: Vigorous Physical Exercise Will Boost Your Self Confidence

Vigorous exercise is one solution in dealing with bad news or when remembering the last good news. If you cannot take off your mind, mood, and disappointment, you can always exercise your way out of it.

Exercising can ease your stress, loss of self-confidence and any other negative emotion or thoughts that you are having right now. You only have to do at least an hour of heavy breathing exercises. You can jog, walk or ride a bike. If the weather is bad, you can use a treadmill. Exercise will clear your head, and it will burn self-doubts, worries, and stress, along with your fats.

Tip 2: Anxiety Is Most Of The Time-Triggered By Food Allergies

For the recent years, there have been findings that even food allergies can cause mild depression, sleep, and eating disorders, as well as anxiety. There are certain chemicals found in food that causes changes in hormones or the chemicals of the body.

There are also instances when you may have an allergy after years of eating specific food such as dairy, wheat, and gluten. Having food allergies can wear you down for over some time. You may experience mood shifts, increase in anxiety or depression and you may begin to feel irritable. Your energy levels will also drop, so it is best to avoid foods you are allergic with to keep your confidence in check.

Tip 3: Surround Yourself With Positive People

“Your environment, both your social and natural surroundings, can greatly impact how you feel.”  Marjie L. Roddick, MA, NCC, LMHC said. Communicating with friends and colleagues is one of the most joyful moments in your life. Surrounding yourself with positive people can also make you have a positive outlook on life.

Tip 4: Recognize Your Accomplishments

First, ask yourself these three things:

  • What have you accomplished or achieved so far? What are you proud of at this time?
  • What did you learn about yourself and what skills did you acquire?
  • Who did you help and how were you able to assist?

This is a self-reflection wherein you can see your accomplishments, achievements, skills and know the people who are part of all that. This can help boost your confidence and might give you a new direction.

The tips are helpful and straightforward. Hopefully, it will open your eyes and see that in life, we have ups and downs. But the downs must not conquer us.

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